Wednesday, April 24, 2013

College Stereotypes

1) Have you ever been sexiled? (To be sexiled is to be denied the use of your room, usually dorm room, because someone is having sex there.)

One night during my freshman year I returned back at the dorm and found my roommate in bed with her date.  I initially turned to leave, and then stayed and watched them instead.  If I came back and found her in bed, I just watched them

2) Were you ever hit on (propositioned) by someone in your circle of friends who knew you were in a relationship with someone else?


3) Did you ever date someone for sex only, i.e. in hopes of a 1-night stand?

There was a hot guy in a literature class that I asked to a party with the sole goal of getting fucked that night.  It took a lot of suggestion and liquor (he was a little more strait laced than I thought) but I had my way with him that night.

4) Were you ever involved in a regrettable sexual incident where alcohol or drugs were involved?

See 3 above.   The sex wasn’t as good as I had hoped, and then I had to see him for the rest of the semester.

5) Did you ever see a porn movie in an actual movie theater? Did you ever see porn on home movie (8mm) before the age of videotape?

One weekend at college one of the student groups had a weekend porn film festival with the classics like “Deep Throat” and “Debbie Does Dallas” and “Behind the Green Door”.  It was mostly guys, well virtually all guys.  Then our sorority house showed up and we had a great time.  If I had gone alone, it would have been weird.  Or if I had gone with a guy.  But as a girls’ night out, it was fun.  That was before everyone had fake boobs and shaved pussys and they just looked like normal people.

6) Did you ever discuss the prowess of a sex partner with a friend? Did the friend also have a history with the same person?

Girls talk.  But in generalities and not specifics. 

Bonus: Many heterosexuals ‘experiment’ in college by having their first same-sex encounter? If you are heterosexual did you have your first same-sex sexual experience in college? Did you like it? What did you do? Are you hetero-flexible or did you become bisexual?

One of my college roommates was interested in me and we kissed and fondled but never went too much further than that.

Thursday, January 10, 2013

A New Year’s Rant

I attended the Baptist wedding of a co-worker yesterday.  It was the longest thirty seven minutes of my life.  The worst part was the fact that it is okay for the ideas of submission to your husband; allowing him to run the home, discipline the children, and the wife to be the helper and prayer mate in the relationship.  On one hand, I’m glad that they found one another because obviously they are both getting the relationship that they desire.  But from a feminist point of view, I was nauseated at times.

Some criticize the religions and regimes of Asia and the Middle East for subjugating woman and rendering them powerless.  Rape and brutality and murder are allowed and ignored.  What I witnessed yesterday was not the same, but it was, I believe, on the same continuum of what happens elsewhere.

The people I saw yesterday are the same that forbid women the right of choice and contraception.  They are the ones that think women have roles as helpers and not leaders.  They are the ones that support the agendas of the extreme right of our country that want a morality that is the vision of narrow minded men.

I wish my co-worker well in her marriage, and I was dishonest when I congratulated them.  I really wish that she was more open to equality in her life and marriage.

I promise, my next post will be more of my usual.